We Will Miss Mark
I am sure that many of you may have heard that Pam's brother, Mark, passed away last week. Here is a link to his obituary: Mark's Obit. Unfortunately, Pam was sick, and she couldn't attend the funeral yesterday, but really wanted me to go. So I did. She also wanted me to say a few words about her recent memories of Mark. So I did. As you all know, I am a pretty emotional person and have grown to accept it. I knew that when I got up to speak at the funeral I would cry and be embarrassed. And I did. And I was. Oh well.
As I explained to someone at the funeral, unlike most people, I don't have a fear of speaking in public, but I am working on conquering my fear of crying in public.
I never really understood Mark. I knew he was a talented, gentle, sensitive, quirky person, but I had a hard time relating to him on a personal level and I never really felt like we got to the level that we were friends. I think that was true with almost everyone who knew him. One of the few exceptions is Pam. I believe that she is one of the few people on this earth who truly knew Mark, and really understood him. I wish I had more time with him. I would have liked being his friend.
Roller Coaster
As luck would have it in the roller coaster that is Pam's health, she has had a rough couple of weeks that coincided with Mark's death.
Last week, just after we learned Mark died, she started complaining of more fatigue and nausea. I initially attributed it to the stress of Mark's death. But by last Friday, she finally got to the point she couldn't keep anything down, including her medications. We called the Bone Marrow Transplant team at OHSU, and they had us take her to her family doctor's office. We spent some quality time at the Family Doc's office, and then we were ushered to one of our old haunts, the ER at Good Sam; where Pam's whole health care journey began in July of 2012. After some tests, it was discovered she had a bladder infection and she was prescribed some antibiotics. She was much better by the next day. But, she started sliding again earlier this week, and we went back to OHSU yesterday after Mark's funeral. She was given a liter of fluid, and, again, much better today. She has another appointment at OHSU on Monday, so we will find out what is up.
Thanksgiving
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| My Sisters, Chelle and TC My Mom, Rochelle |
We were able to score two dinners on Thanksgiving: One at our good friend Mort and Tina's, and another with the Eidem Clan. It was great to see everyone.
My little sisters and my folks were all able to get together for Thanksgiving in Denver. I wish we could have joined them. Here is a pic.
Hate to Brag ....
The only problem with eating Thanksgiving somewhere else, is that you don't get turkey leftovers. So, I decided to cook a turkey just for us. Hate to brag (not true, but that is something one is supposed to say before they brag), but my turkey was great. Made a paste out of fresh basil, rosemary, garlic and olive oil and rubbed it under the skin of the breast. Here is the recipe.
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| Killer Turkey |
Again... hate to brag.... but they are really good.



Jerry thank you for the up date. The turkey looks great and when I get to CA I guess I will have to try popping one in the oven.
ReplyDeleteSorry Pam had to miss the memorial.Tell her the obit in the paper was great.
Will be praying for her and you that things level out again.
Thanks Shirley. As you know, this is a marathon, not a sprint.
DeleteWow, Jer. Roller coaster is right. I'm so sorry she missed marks funeral. But it probably would have proved too much for her regardless of the infection. It was really wonderful of you to go for her. I've decided I will refer to you as saint jerry from now on.
ReplyDeleteWell, take care of each other. I hope things are much easier for Christmas.
Love you
Patti Kay
"St. Jerry of PDX"... uh, nah.
DeleteHang in there cowgirl!
ReplyDeleteDoug
Thanks, Doug!
DeleteJerry, LOVE LOVE and LOVE to both of you, hugs, and ditto to what Patti Kay says, and Doug as well. I hope the next few weeks/months/whatever will bring some much needed peace. The Eidem family has been very much in my thoughts and prayers. Call or e-mail me any time.
ReplyDelete(BTW I think "St. Jerry" fits. You should accept the mantle with pride.)
Joni
Thanks Joni. Thinking of selling some of my old sweat socks as relics.
ReplyDeleteJerry (and Pam) We are sorry to hear about Mark. Losing a sibling is always hard. Sorry too that Pam is still riding the Roller Coaster. Hang in there, Girl! Katherine
ReplyDeleteI know that mom thinks you are a Saint and apparently you are converting the masses now! ;-) I hadn't seen this when we talked. You probably thought I was very thick or something. I just want to thank you for calling me your little sister! I will take the tag "little" any way I can get it!!! I know things are going to be looking up. Hang in there big brother! Love you!
ReplyDeleteDidn't notice any "thickness" at all. We're hanging in there. Thanks!
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